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Praise children properly

Child | Promotion | education

We all need praise and recognition - and our children especially! Parents use praise to reinforce positive things in their children. Our children learn from praise. A study has shown that children up to the age of 8 learn primarily through praise, while reprimand and criticism still had little effect. 12-year-olds were better able to deal with negative feedback and learn from their mistakes.

Praise triggers a lot of emotions. You can tell that even adults can't handle serious praise. In such situations one is embarrassed, speechless or blushing. Therefore, it should be learned in childhood how to deal with such situations. Expressing or perceiving one's own feelings correctly is an important basis for later life. With proper praise, parents can help their children do this.

Praise “right”

But not all praise is beneficial and meaningful. Some parents mean it too well and shower their children with praise. It is important to find the right balance of praise and to praise your children honestly and sincerely.

Here are some things to look out for when praising your child:

Be honest and believable! Praise should only be given if there is a reason for it. Children have a pretty good sense of insincere praise. A child can be encouraged in what they do through honest recognition, and their positive behaviors can thereby be consolidated. But if a child is praised for every little thing and for achievements that it has been able to do for a long time (e.g. tying shoes) or should have done (e.g. tidying up the room), the praise loses its effect. The child therefore does not have the opportunity to realistically assess their own achievements. Exaggerated or inappropriate praise can also lead a child to overestimate themselves and feel awesome.

Specify your praise! A child can do little with a blanket “Super!” Or “Well done!”. If he or she has painted a beautiful drawing and hears “You paint beautifully!”, It does not know which detail the praise refers to. Specific praise has some useful consequences: First, you provide guidance with precise praise and help your child to recognize his or her praiseworthy behavior as such. For example, it has chosen the colors for the drawing well. Second: In contrast to “Nice drawing!” And “Well done!”, Your detailed praise sounds different every time. This is important because you can get used to praise so that it will not work. Third, a study has shown that generally worded recognition can also have the opposite effect. It can take away the motivation of the children if they are criticized later. Because through general praise ("You draw really beautifully"), the child internalizes, for example, that he is talented in drawing. If the child is then confronted with criticism, it quickly loses motivation.

Praise his efforts! Do not praise the child's personality, abilities and talent ("You are a great artist"), but above all his efforts and dedication ("You painted this picture very precisely"). By praising the child's behavior and the energy they have put into their work, you increase their self-confidence. Also acknowledge not only the result, but also the work and the path to the end result. Make it clear how important this achievement is to the achievement of the child's goals.

Don't praise things that are taken for granted!The moment you emphasize banalities and self-evident things with praise, you show that you are already satisfied with little and do not trust the child too much. Such behavior does not inspire your children to get the best out of themselves. Set standards and praise at a high level.

Find a healthy amount of recognition! There is no basic rule for a healthy amount of praise. Too little praise and too little praise creates dissatisfaction. People who are not praised for doing something particularly well can eventually lose their motivation. Constant praise, on the other hand, tires and lowers the effectiveness of the praise as well as the credibility of the praiser. You may also create some kind of addiction by giving too much praise. Your children would only go to work if they were praised.

Praise is simply part of a good upbringing. Praising each other and motivating the children with positive words strengthens self-confidence and family life.

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