Why are you an optimist

Are you an optimist or a pessimist?

A good question. Or are there men who decide according to a situation whether they are optimistic or pessimistic? Man is sometimes as contradictory as these two poles. The question is whether you can learn an optimistic way of life, even though you are basically a pessimist?

Can you learn optimism?

Psychology clearly affirms this question. Buddhism, which is mistakenly described as a gloomy worldview around earthly suffering, does that too. It is not for nothing that the Dalai Lama speaks more and more of happiness. But the power of positive thinking alone does not make you an optimist. With his slogan “Everyone is the maker of his or her happiness”, Dale Carnegie advocated a thesis that Buddhism also advocates: You are responsible for the way you view the world. Optimists do not get lost in depressive moods, negative beliefs or hopelessness . They are convinced that they can somehow cope with upcoming problems, grief or periods of stress. They believe in their abilities and do not indulge in self-doubt. The pessimist sees in everything only the chance of misfortune and failure. For the optimist, this is incomprehensible because there is at least a 50:50 chance of success. He relies on this. If something still fails, the optimist expands his wealth of experience and tries another way.

Optimists are more relaxed

Those who can remove the typical optimism killers from their lives live better. Nothing is more likely to cause failure than perfectionism, notorious competitiveness, or the constant fear of failure. Optimists are more relaxed. You don't expect long-term top performance from yourself. You can more easily forgive yourself and others weaknesses and mistakes. In Buddhism one is trained through years of mind training without observing any evaluation of what is going on in one's head. We are often not aware of our inner thought patterns. They were trained early on and have long since become independent. But since these patterns have been trained, we can also reprogram them.

Rigid thinking prevents a positive attitude

As you can overwrite data on a hard drive, you can also gradually learn to rewrite the internalized programs in yourself. You can counter your pessimism with a positive attitude, more emotional intelligence and stronger self-competence. To do this, you have to become aware of your internalized beliefs and thought patterns. It does not matter whether this happens in the context of therapy, seminars on the topic or meditation. The fact is: it takes a while to develop positive characters. Buddhism teaches that empathy and altruism are the foundations of happiness. It's never just about you, you are only conceivable in the context of others. Surround yourself with optimistic people and learn from them how to spell happiness and a positive attitude. No longer be a slave to your destructive feelings and thoughts. Rise above them.

All the basics are already in place

When it comes to “self-management”, you have a realistic chance of changing your basic mood and your pessimistic worldview. Nothing obliges you to hold on to them. Be open to the possibility that you already have all the talents of an optimist within you. They are just underdeveloped and overlaid with pessimistic content. Think of it as if you have to learn a new foreign language for work. The language of the optimists actually uses a different vocabulary. When you begin to expand your vocabulary with the language tools of an optimist and consider the possibility of internalizing the newly learned language, you have already taken the first step to becoming an optimist. Your speaking and language skills were already installed on the genes at birth - but not the programs with which you learn new languages. You have to install this first - in order to stay in the picture. Realize that your dispositions only define 50% of how you feel. A small part depends on the respective living conditions - but at least 40% is up to your interpretation of what is happening. You can rewrite these proportions. You can train yourself on a different way of interpreting.

From pessimist to optimist: a transformation

Optimism is like a previously unknown language. You have to make this your own first. Resolve yourself to explore an unknown country in which you will find your place as an eloquent optimist. Your newly learned viewpoints will influence everything you experience. They affect your career path and your relationships. It is important, however, that it is not a question of an artificial optimism, but an authentic feeling. Since you already have all the facilities for an optimistic attitude, you don't have to force anything. Just let it grow. As Buddhism says: Avoid unwholesome and encourage wholesome thinking. Do not water the mental weeds, but what would like to blossom next to it. Give what is already there more space than what has taken hold of you. Practice creates masters. This saying also applies to an optimistic lifestyle. The fact is that daily exercise creates neural connections in your brain that anchor your optimistic attitude towards life. As an optimist who more and more often has a sense of achievement because he believes in them, you just feel better.

The most important steps to success

Your transformation into an optimist takes some effort. But: this is worth it. Therefore, approach your transformation with a positive attitude. Emphasize your strengths in everything you say and think. You have good qualities that you can develop on a daily basis. Realize the same potential in other people. Practice gratitude and contentment. There are plenty of reasons for both. Collect your sense of achievement. Enjoy yours with others too. Remind yourself of things that you want to experience every day. Go to meet them. Visualize their appearance. Choose an optimistic motto for times of crisis. Don't let yourself lapse into pointless brooding any more. Create the conditions so that you don't boycott yourself. You are indulging in a lot of your destructive thought patterns in your unconscious mode. Practice spiritual discipline. See the world as a market of opportunities and opportunities, not a pool of setbacks and grievances. Take better care of yourself in the future. Treat yourself to beautiful experiences. Enjoy your leisure hours instead of constantly turning the wheel. Let others do well too. Take them with you into your new attitude to life. See crises and failures as an opportunity to learn something new about yourself and grow.

Optimists live much better. And longer.

It's not about mutating from the notorious curmudgeon to a chronic cheerful nature. Rather, you can use the opportunity to recognize and develop your positive potential. You can develop the confidence to come back to yourself again and again and fall to your feet if you stumble. Clever people once found that about 30,000 to 60,000 thoughts cross our minds every day. Few of them are aware of it. For pessimists, an alarming number of them are destructive. If you become more aware of your unconscious worlds of thought, you can take better countermeasures. We make a lot of worries completely unnecessary anyway. Optimists are emotionally more robust and less stressed. Therefore, they are sick less often. The immune system reacts to a positive mood, as it is burdened with fewer stress hormones. Science has already proven this connection. It has also been proven that the optimist sees an opportunity when the pessimist gets in the way of anything. Therefore, the optimist is often more successful.


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